Growing Up As The Oldest: The Good And The Funny!

Growing Up As The Oldest: The Good, The Annoying And The Funny!
I am 27 years old,  the oldest of five girls, and I must say that life has been nothing short of interesting....
Anyways, If you're also the oldest child then you know that it is essentially like being a third parent to all of your siblings. It's also kinda like this underlining contract that you're an easy babysitter and the number of times that people will ask you if "this is your baby?" will be astounding. With all of that being put aside I feel as though being the oldest has waaay more pros than it does cons in the long run.
Growing Up As The Oldest: The Good, The Annoying And The Funny!
Pros
  • Essentially, you learn how to parent VERY early. Think about it, by the time you have your own kids you'll be a pro at all of the things you siblings tried on you. The tricks don't change only the players. Remember that!
  • They HAVE to listen to you! No matter how old you are, you're technically always the adult in the situation and you make all of the final decisions, which is also a great superpower to have within itself.
  • You'll always have a best friend! Anytime I need help or advice I can ALWAYS go to one of them! Whether it's an outfit, with career changes, or general life, they are always there to guide me.
  • Honestly, there's no greater joy than watching my sisters grow up into working productive humans. It's interesting to see the type of people that they grow up to be and it always turns out to be quite the surprise.
  • It teaches you how to be more understanding towards people. Being the oldest requires massive amounts of patience and I strongly believe that's why I can work so easily with people!

"Every moment that we have had together are ones that are to be challenged and ones that are meant to be laughed at. Siblinghood is something that requires a large amount of time and care"

Growing Up As The Oldest: The Good, The Annoying And The Funny!

Rightfully so, we have our moments where we literally want to pull each other's hair out! One of the biggest challenges about having siblings is experiencing growing pains together. Life changes and your interests change which means there are moments where you don't really want to be surrounded by the nuances or responsibilities of siblinghood  BUT I am here to say that those moments pass and when they do, life gets good for the better.
Growing Up As The Oldest: The Good, The Annoying And The Funny!

Cons
  • Unfortunately, there will be fights over stupid things. It won't be avoidable but you'll make it through and one day that fight over a pair of jeans will be a thing of the past.
  • There will be times where you don't want to be responsible but you'll want to run away from it all without a care in the world. It gets tiring but once we all pass those angsty teen years it mellows down a whoooole lot.
  • You'll realize that the rules you had as a kid are nonexistent and quite frankly outdated by the time the younger ones start to grow up. Sometimes life just ain't fair!
  • You're always being watched AKA you can't mess up because you have to always be a positive role model. Though over the years I have become a bit lenient on this I don't know an "oldest" child who hasn't suffered from this phenomenon.
  • At one point in siblinghood, they will eventually dislike you and not want you to tell them what to do anymore. They'll start to feel like "They don't need another parent" in their life and it's gonna be a long journey for them to realize that it's never gonna change! Ha!
Growing Up As The Oldest: The Good, The Annoying And The Funny!
But once you get past all of those things you will embrace one another and all of those strange little quirks! You'll start to look back on those days and laugh your heads off because all of those disagreements were sooooo stupid in hindsight and you can't believe you even wasted your time thinking and arguing about it! It's water under the bridge and quite frankly you're all getting too old to even keep up with an argument anyway!
Growing Up As The Oldest: The Good, The Annoying And The Funny!
But one thing is for sure, you'll always have time to take selfies, go on little dates and make sure the baby of the family is more spoiled than ever! The one thing I have learned that if you can't beat em, remind em who's boss and live your best life! Ha! We're just a family that plays together and stays together and that's not ever gonna change! I love being the oldest and I take pride in knowing they will always have someone to lean on!
Best,
Sha'Carey

4 comments

  1. I am the oldest also of my siblings and I can relate. Wow the circle of life. But, well said.

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    1. I know right! Somethings never change! Thank you!

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  2. Such cute photos of you and your siblings! I have sisters, but they are a lot older, so I always felt like an only child! xo

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    1. Thank you so much! I am about 21 years older than my baby and were always wondering if she feels like an older child because of the age gap! We spend a lot of time with her but its different because she doesn't have anyone thats also 6!🤔

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